respecting yourself by setting boundaries



ten years ago — i was a different person. ten years ago, “boundaries” wasn’t really a thing in my life. i didn’t know that i was allowed to tell someone “hey, this isn’t okay with me.”

until one day, that all changed for me when a dean of my university told me that i was “a disgrace to my university” and “would never amount to anything or capable of leading people.”

i don’t know what came over me that day, after all, i had never been one to stick up for myself but that day as she these words came out of her mouth — something inside of me said “this isn’t okay.”

after the dean finished going off on her rant, i sat up tall in my chair and said “you don’t get to talk to me like that. you have no authority to say those things to me.”

that day, changed everything for me. that day, i realized, boundaries are important and that we are allowed to speak up for our boundaries — what’s okay and what’s not okay with us. we are allowed to tell someone “hey, this isn’t okay with me.” 

that day, i came to the realization that having boundaries is a form of self-love and self-respect. and, if we never stick up for our boundaries (whether personally or professionally) then we allow ourselves to be exposed and unguarded against the things that will come and try to rob us of our joy, our confidence, our talent, our time, our well-being, our faith, and our hope.

you see, if we’re going to make it to the finish line of our dreams and live well throughout the process of dream chasing (and being human)— then, we need to have boundaries. boundaries of what people can say to us, how they can treat us, how they interact with us, how they talk about us, and how they do business with us. we need to have boundaries of what we’ll allow ourselves to experience and boundaries of what we don’t want to expose ourselves to.

and just because our boundaries disappoint or upset people, doesn’t mean that we need to shift and change them. boundaries, they don’t make us weak — on the contrary, they make us strong. they empower us to be all that we can be and do all that we can do in the world. 

this week on the daring romantics podcast, i’m diving deep into the topic of boundaries on both the personal and professional level. because, gosh — as entrepreneurs, if we’re gonna make it to the other side of our dream with our sanity still in tact, then we need to realize — boundaries are our friend. and we’re not super heroes who can survive (or thrive)  in the world without boundaries. i’m sharing my own experiences and what i’ve learned about developing healthy boundaries and how to guard them.

my greatest hope is that you walk away from this episode with the confidence that you are worthy of being respected by yourself and others. 

tune in on iTunes to episode no. 18 “respect yourself + set boundaries” now available for your listening pleasure. 😉 

cheers and xo’s, 

lindsey eryn